People really struggle to find balance between professional and personal life. Now a day, it is in fact becoming a huge challenge, to go with a highly competitive corporate world and having a spare time for loved ones.
For Example there are two cases.
1.For some population only career is everything. It’s their top priority but along with professional life they want to maintain family, relatives and friends also.
2.On the other hand for some people family is more important than anything. But it’s really hard to balance between two.
Finally in both the cases they have to maintain the balance between professional and family life.
So if you are also on a same boat then this post is for you. As a human being, we always want everything perfect and at its place. Indeed it’s too hard to do it than saying. And though you try it, it’s really difficult to find a spare time for friends, relatives, family or for kids. The world is highly competitive. In whichever profession you are you have to always stay updated, give an extra hour for your work, you have to stay highly progressive and at the top of the competition. But how is that going to happen????
At moment may be you will be always rushing here and there, just to support a family and achieve that extra mile in your career. And top of all there are only 24 hours in a day. We can’t extend them or though we manufacture a brand new watch with 40 or 48 hours, it’s not going to work. Some of you would have even listened to your spouse or your closed one saying that you really don’t spend any time with them. Though they are important to you despite you have to tell them a same stuff thousand times a week. It’s really hard to believe for them.
“Right??? So what’s the solution for this problem???”
Well, solution is very simple you just have to work on yourself bit. You would be at your 30's, 40's or at any stage of life, you have to note it out. What time you are highly active and energetic. It depends, some people can complete their most of the tasks early morning, some do it after a good sleep and for some people they even work extra in the evening. So guys this the right time when you can eat that big frog!! I mean this is a right time to finish off most of the important and essential tasks.
Find the ways to make your day more efficient and productive if you want to leave work at work. Increase your productivity. So you can finish more tasks in less time. This way you can save time for your personal life. To enjoy a family life it’s really important to leave work in the office. Don’t bring it at home. Though you have some pending work, try to finish it in your productive and efficient hours.
This means understanding yourself well and optimizing your day in advance makes a best out of it. It’s indeed going to help you. This way you would be able to spend those happy moments with your loved ones and would be able to achieve that next step in your career as well.
As a human being decision making is our ultimate power. Just don’t waste it. Use it wisely and never take suggestions from people, who indeed have nothing to do with end results.
There's no wonder, as you would have also heard people saying several times that we have got only one life. If that’s true then why we always spend our valuable time while wondering about what others will think if I do so and so thing!!! Even most of the people do the stuffs just for others sake. If you are really noble and want to dedicate your life and services for others benefit then this is really a great and honorable thing. But if you are just simply living the way to match others expectations, like a Baa Baa Black sheep then do you really worth something???
Why you should be always judged by others opinion??? Even I have met a people saying that they wear so and so...kind of cloths because their relatives or family members like them. Why is it so????
Don’t you have your own choice, your own expectations and dreams about life???
If you accept the fact that you have got this life for one time then why are you wasting it while becoming a show piece for others??? Be true and honest with yourself. Love yourself as you are. Everybody is different individual so have different choices, goals and dreams.
For small... small things we depend on others. That’s OK, as kid or junior member in office or in family we can always ask for suggestions but that doesn’t mean we should always do the stuffs what others feels good. How long one can keep others pleasing??? So try to take your own decisions and take full control and responsibility of your life.
While even doing a routine works instead of ourselves we always wonder what others will be thinking about us. I really want to do this stuff but what if no one likes it. If you are a person who always thinks about others judgments then this is the right time to think. Are you really living this life on your terms and for yourself or you have sacrificed it for others just being their show piece????
Never give up doing your best just because of others discouragements.
“The only risk in life is, not to take any risk. Just dare to take risks in life, go for your dreams. Life is very short to deal with all the losers, who discourage you so just ignore them and stay progressive.”
If you are honest to yourself then you can accept it that people try to show you down or discourage because they are just scared of your goals and ambitions. They just don’t want you to reach your destiny because they won’t get any benefit from that and you won’t obey them anymore. You will become a different person than you are. They might be your family members, friends or relatives. After all don’t forget that we are human beings.
During your journey towards success people may try to distract or try to discourage you, just be yourself and don’t forget to ask yourself questions.....
“Is this what I wanted to become?” “Is it my destiny?” Is it purpose of my life?” And you will automatically get honest answers to your all questions................because everybody has a different purpose of life. If others can’t do it that doesn’t mean you can’t do it. Those people do so because they can’t do things on their own and are jealous of your ambition. Anyhow everyone has a different point of view and perceptions.
Some people face a discouragement from their best friends, family or from relatives as well. But if you maintain an empowering mindset with self consciousness then no one could be able to discourage you anymore. “Develop success from discouragement and failure.”
Failures do not determine your future. It aids you, despite the outcome, despite the emotions. It aids you into becoming a better person, a better individual and more successful in the future. Always learn a lesson from your failures as well and implement them into your live. They will undoubtedly support you to fulfill your dreams and expectations from life.
If people punch you down into the ground, don’t forget to get up again with more strength and confidence and prove it to them that you can do it. Those people who tell others that “they can’t” have no faith in themselves that’s why they tear down others just to make themselves feel better. Are you really going to let them beat you down like that? When you rise up and show them that you can do it, that’s when they finally realize that they were wrong. That’s when they realize, that they can no longer beat you down like that because you have just proven yourself that you can do things. And, that’s when they realize they’re the only ones having no faith in themselves.
In my opinion those people who tell you that “you can’t” are the losers. If there is a problem, solve it with optimistically. There’s no successful person who never faced a single problem or discouragements.
Every positive and negative feeling is just within you. It’s your life so you have to decide, are you going to take this discouragement in optimistic or in pessimistic way.
Keep your passion and priorities higher than Discouragement!
Every Worst Situation Always Brings Something Best in Your Life. Sometimes it magically changes the way you think of your life and goals.
Worst situations and people always prepare you for your best. They make you emotionally, mentally and even physically strong. Each time you face the brutality of the life just tell yourself “Life is testing you bring your strongest version out.” Believe me each time you face new difficulties as a challenge you will become stronger than before.
Every situation offers a learning opportunity and an outlet to become better in the long-run. There are many examples of people making it through dark times and coming out lighter and more complete than they ever were before.
Don’t Run Away from the brutal truth Just dare to face it!!!
Whenever you face worst things accept the fact that you are going to make them better for you. Nobody is going to do it for you. Your mess is your responsibility. This is the time you have to kick the brutal truth on its face. Don’t ignore the facts just because something doesn’t fit your vision. Instead of neglecting and avoiding the problem, decide how to deal with it most effectively and take a productive action.
Productive and creative problem solving involves thinking outside the box and breaking away from fixed mental sets. If there is a problem take it as a challenge, get creative, and work to find a best solution.
Build your mental strength.
Surviving a stressful life experience could teach you many things. That you are stronger than once you thought. It makes you emotionally and mentally stronger than before. It prepares you for most critical situations in life. So you will not be paralyzed when brutality of life kicks you straight on the face.
From Each Pain, You will have a Progressive gain.
Yes, this is absolute magic of life. Pain and happiness are sides of a single coin. We could call it a coin of life. Even in a painful situations optimist always search for more creative solutions. He becomes stronger and more productive than before. As pain in his life, offers him new ways and strength to face upcoming problems.
“Yes, surely this is called getting best out of the worst.”
This the time to recognize new possibilities.
Tragedy always opens our eyes to find a new purpose in life. A person who survives through a pain, brutality or worst situations finds a new possibilities to live his/her life fully and happily. Adversity may help you discover opportunities you never knew existed.
Worst Situations Strengthens your Willpower and spiritual power.
“When life hands you a Lemon just squeeze it and make a juice. No matter you like it with sugar or without... it’s up to you.”
Worst situation magnificently rebuilds your will power and spiritual power. It may change your faith and beliefs for a life time. They help to give a total new meaning to your life.
In our daily life several times we come across the people we don’t like to interact with, we don’t want to deal with or discuss the stuffs. But what if they are your family members or close relatives???
When it comes to family, though how difficult it is to deal with them you are clearly left with no choice. It could be your in-laws, close relatives or family friends. So just go ahead and take a challenge. If so, you'll want to know how to interact with them and not drive yourself crazy in the normal daily basis discussions. Deal with your difficult relatives by staying calm and being assertive. Then, follow strategies to make interactions with them more pleasant. Also, it can help to distance yourself from them when it's necessary to save your sanity.
Listen to Listen- If it’s your family member or relative then you know the person well. Whatever he is saying just listen to it although you have nothing to with it. I know some times it’s really annoying. So do one thing don’t give even a single thought about it if it’s really bla....bla and bla...Just listen to listen. That person can’t enter into your head or mind to check if you are seriously listening to him. This is one of the best principles to maintain your relation and even you are not giving damn about anybodies murmuring. Just save your energy for good work.
Listen Calmly- Listening is the most important step in dealing with "unreasonable" people. It may happen that it’s really necessary to hear the front person when he is talking about your or families well being. Everyone wants to feel heard. No progress can take place until the other person feels acknowledged. While you're listening, really focus on what the other person is saying, not what you want to say next.
Don’t Judge- We never knows what the other person is going through. Chances are, if a person is acting unreasonable, they are likely feeling some sort of anxiety, insecurity, vulnerability or fear.
Stay calm-When a situation is emotionally charged, you may get annoyed. Just stay conscious and present at the same moment and try deep breathing.
Show Respect- Show respect and dignity toward the other person. No matter how a person is treating you, showing contempt will not help to resolve the situation. It may get worse.
Look for the unfolded intention- No one can go crazy or behave like a dog without any intention or reason. Sometimes the front person may not be able to tell you his intention behind all the drama. So just look out for the possible hidden need. What is this person really trying to prove?
Try to talk about it with your other family members you are good with. Who knows you may get the permanent solution for this problem.
Avoid Smiling- As this may look like you are mocking the person. Sometimes it can lighten the mood, but more often than not, it’s risky and it may backfire.
Don’t act defensively- This is really tough. You’re naturally not enjoying the other person saying nasty things or things that you know aren’t true. You’re going to want to defend yourself. But the other person is grown so emotional; it’s not going to help. Remember, this is not about you. Don’t take it personally.
Raising your voice, pointing your finger, or speaking disrespectfully to the other person will add fuel to an already heated situation. Use a low, calm, even monotone voice. Don't try to talk over the person. Wait until the person takes a breath and then speak. Don't argue or try to convince the other person of anything.
After the situation is over, talk to someone about what happened. Discharge your own feelings and stress. Give yourself credit for getting through an uncomfortable situation. It takes a lot of energy not to act like a jerk when someone else is behaving nasty.
Why we get stuck in the past and can't move forward?
If we think consciously and try to analyse the fact, maximum people spent their most of the time while worrying about their past. It’s very natural to feel painful or being sad for some time though anything goes slightly wrong. It’s human tendency to react to the specific situations and dilemmas in life. The sentimental and emotional characteristic differs from person to person. But how correct is it to spend our maximum time just murmuring about the past?
After a breakup whether it’s committed relationship or just a friendship there is a natural period of grief, sadness and mourning. It is a time when you feel stuck, when it seems to be impossible to live a life, and doing even the simplest thing feel like climbing Mt. Everest. The process can be different for each individual, but in my opinion, this period of mourning is fair game and well. It’s a human tendency; you do what you need to do in order to get through the pain and survive through the grief.
At some point in life almost everyone face this phase at some extent. For anyone who has felt stuck before, you know exactly the feeling I’m talking about. It’s like you’re trapped under this huge weight of emotions and every step you take, that weight becomes heavier and heavier. Your mind gets clouded. Your heart grows confused with mixed fears, some uncertain anxieties and insecurity. In the entire storm finding your way seems close to impossible. Time ticks away and nothing seems to change. You may wonder why you feel this way and can’t seem to move forward and leave the past behind.
The past is already gone. Right now you don’t have any control over it. You can’t rewind a time or events that happened. You can’t go back and correct anything. So it’s better to let it go. Accept the truth. I know it needs more courage but yes it’s a bitter reality.
Tricks to nourish your lovely relationship with secret tenderness.
Be friendly and share each thought with each other including your plans, the places you love, the people around you, and your career goals. Don’t hesitate to express yourself. There should be a transparency in the relationship. Enjoy each moment fully while serious about each others happiness.
Always Reserve the Space
It’s invariably good to enjoy with family and friends but that doesn’t mean you should be always covered by several people around. Especially on weekends or whenever you are having ideal time, plan for short trips and activities so you both could stay together and enjoy each other’s company. You could share your dreams, your fantasies and past achievements as it’s not always possible that everybody could share their heart with the crowd. You are the special one chosen by your partner to do heart to heart communication. It’s your responsibility value her or his feelings and intellectuals. Now a day’s privacy is becoming an essential factor.
Physical Attachment (Sex Life) and Romance
This is also a one of the key for everlasting lovely relationship or marriage. The vital sexual life and sparking romance keeps your relationship at the top. Never miss to do several kisses, normal hugs, vibrant touches and gentle hand hold. It could bless your relationship with eternal lust and vital life.
Following are the tricks to nourish your lovely relationship with secret tenderness.
Though your opinions are different on single points both you could try to come up with the mutual understanding with more sophisticated and delicately. Instead of arguing about the likes and dislikes you could respect each others opinions and could bring the perfection.
Entertain the present not the past
Nobody could change the past but yes while utilizing your present you could create a bright future. Never entertain the past mistakes, family backgrounds or certain triggering stuffs from yours or your partners past. As there’s nothing you could change yes but you will unnecessarily bother about the stuffs and will miss beautiful present which is going to become a past in few moments.
This is the best key to strengthen your relationship. Always put yourself in your partners shoe and think how you would like to treat yourself as his life partner. Yes and there’s the way you are going to give him the same golden moments, same tender treatment and in return you will get enormous joy.
Respect your partner’s feelings
Whenever he or she is narrating something, sometimes it could be more tedious or pointless. Pay attention to the matter and show your interest while listen to him and enjoying the talk. The crucial reason is he should believe that he could share anything and everything with you just like a childhood friends. So both of you could enjoy each others company and could spend a nice time together.
When you fall in love or get marry everything seems perfectly fine. But to keep that perfection, joy, enthusiasm and romance permanent and noticeably vital is really a big deal and one of the major responsibilities. Constant nourishment, changes, improvement and continues positive attempts to keep your partner happy and satisfied is the magical formula to make your relationship stronger and heavenly. As almost all the couple goes through struggles but only few really survives through it and stands strong till the end by holding their hands together.
To fall in love or get marry you need to have courage but to stand till the end you should be courageous and more patient. As we say nobody is perfect on this planet but we need to bring perfection to our life. It doesn’t come automatically you need to give your best. Love and loving relationship works the same way. It significantly brings enormous glow on your face and magically turns your world upside down.
Many people face trouble while getting out of their bitter past. Why it’s so alive in their lives? Whoever you would be or however sour or painful your past is “IT’s JUST GONE.” You have nothing to do with it now. Just accept the reality and push yourself forward.
Now it is time to take a lesson what you have learned from it, accept the reality that it is over even though that was something too serious and have changed your life dramatically.